Be the Change

Monday night, I had the opportunity to see Miss Representation, a 90-minute documentary about the stereotypical, limiting and often degrading portrayals of women in the media. I first saw the film’s trailer at the Mega IIN conference I attended in March and talked briefly about it in a blog post I wrote a few weeks ago. While I loved the trailer, I had no idea how much the full movie would move me.

As a female who’s struggled with disordered eating for a large portion of her life, I know first hand how negatively the media can affect women. Though I’m embarrassed to admit it, I truly thought the models and actresses in magazines really looked like their photographs in real life—thin, flawless, perfect—until just a year or two ago. I had no idea how much Photoshop could completely alter how someone looks!

Do you want to know what the sad part is? Even after I started to realize the women on the cover of magazines didn’t really exist, I still wanted to look like them. I would have killed to attain that standard of perfection, even if it was impossible. That almost made it more attractive to me—knowing that if I could look like that, I would have achieved an unreachable goal.

Women in Numbers

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I know how unhealthy that sounds, and I’m not proud of having these thoughts and feelings. But you know what? I’m not ashamed, either. In a society that equates a woman’s worth to her physical appearance, it’s no wonder millions of women and girls are battling issues like eating disorders and depression. In fact, it’s a situation that can bring me to tears and make me want to punch the closest man to me all within a 30-second span!

Miss Representation sheds light on the reality women face in today’s society, one that many of us ignore, intentionally or otherwise. The documentary features strong, intelligent, inspiring women and men who provide insight and commentary about the issues facing women in America today. It also shows dozens of shocking facts, including the following:

  • 53% of 13 year old girls are unhappy with their bodies. That number increases to 78% by age 17.
  • Rates of depression among women and young girls have doubled in the past ten years.
  • 65% of American women and girls have disordered eating behavior.
  • The United States is 90th in the world in terms of women in national legislatures, behind countries like Afghanistan, China, Cuba and Iraq.
  • 15% of rape survivors are under the age of 12.

Statistics like these are absolutely infuriating, and they need to change. NOW.

A wise woman once told me that whatever you accept becomes acceptable behavior. I might be just one person, but I sure as hell am not going let things continue like this while I sit back and watch. Whether it’s writing blog posts, hosting screenings or running for office, I’m going to do something to change this. And I challenge you do to the same.

If you haven’t yet, do yourself a favor and watch this film. Find a screening near you. Better yet, host one. Educate yourself, educate your community and help to improve the world we live in. If we don’t take a stand and make a change, who will?

What is something, big or small, you can do to benefit women in your community?

Miss Representation

Have you ever wished you looked like someone else? That you were thinner or prettier? That your life would be perfect if you just lose 10 pounds, could afford designer clothes and looked like [insert celebrity name here]?

If you don’t relate to any of this, you either 1) deserve a round of applause for being the most confident woman on the planet or 2) have managed to avoid exposure to the media through some magical feat or complete isolation. For your sake, I hope it’s the former.

If you did connect to the questions I posed, you’re not alone—I’m right there with you, sister! Everyday, Americans are inundated with thousands of media messages, and I’d bet it’s safe to say that most of them are attempting to sell a product. Even beyond that, many of these messages, whether it’s intentional or not, promote something along of the lines of girls are pretty and boys are smart.

Smart like Dad. Pretty like Mommy. Seriously!? (Source)

Does this come as a shock to you? Probably not. I mean, think about it. Our society tells girls they should like pink, play with dolls and, eventually, do whatever it takes to be attractive—to be sexy. Boys, on the other hand, are typically raised with toy guns, violent video games and the idea that they should be the ones in control—the leaders.

Why am I writing about this? Because I think this nonsense needs to stop. These messages, whether we want to admit it or not, affect us, and they make intelligent, strong, beautiful women question their worth every day! I’m not about to let the media tell me how I should feel about my body, and I sure as hell don’t think you should either.

While I was at the Integrative Nutrition Mega Conference, a trailer for Miss Representation, a documentary about women and mainstream media, was shown, and it really struck a chord with me. Not only did it inspire this post, but it made me want to do something. Do something to empower women, show them how naturally beautiful they are and remind them that they are kick-ass superstars!

What is that something? I’m not sure yet—but, when I do figure it out, you’ll be the first to know! Until then, watch the trailer below and get inspired.

What kind of impact has the media had on your body image?